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We Won the Lottery!

Janet & Darryl Lapaire

SV Maple
Leopard 384 Catamaran
January 5th, 2016

One of the most common questions we’ve been asked by friends and strangers alike is “How do you manage to stop everything and go sailing in the Mediterranean?”  Most people assume you have to be rich to make it work.  Well, truth is we have a secret.  We are rich.  We won the lottery.  Right now, those who know us best are saying – wait, I thought you needed to play the lottery to win?  That’s true.  Follow along and I’ll explain what I mean.

Janet and I have been extremely lucky in our lives.  We were born as white, middle class children in one of the greatest free democracies on the planet.  A nation that has known peace within its borders for more than 200 years; one of the world’s strongest economies.  What did we do to deserve this?  Nothing.  Was it due to hard work and perseverance on our part?  I doubt it.  Perhaps we are of strong moral character or superior breeding and deserving of such a luxury?  Nope.

We were just lucky, plain old, wild-arsed lucky.  Several generations ago, we each had ancestors who took a chance, left everything they knew and loved behind, and moved to Canada.  Like 100% of those who now call Canada home, our ancestors came from somewhere else.  They immigrated from homes where they saw little opportunity, to one where they saw much opportunity and set us up for the successes we have had in life.  We are rich because of them, rich in opportunity, freedom and security and able to make the most of our lives.

Over the past few weeks I’ve been confronted with the reality of our good fortune in a way that I knew was coming, but I couldn’t possibly have prepared for.

We have been travelling east through Greece, bound for Turkey, where we’ll stop for the season.  Our last stop was on Kalymnos, just a stone’s throw from the border, and now we are at Kos, awaiting good weather to head south to Turkey.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last 6 months you’ll be well aware of the refugee crisis currently facing Europe and Turkey; (hey – I live on a sailboat and I know about it).  No matter how closely you follow the news, nothing can prepare you for seeing the reality of thousands of people running towards hope and opportunity.

Abandoned boats and lifejackets in Kos, Greece

Abandoned boats and lifejackets in Kos, Greece

I say running towards hope and opportunity because that is truly what is going on here.  The people we are seeing on Kalymnos and Kos have  endured desperate struggles to reach Greece, and their journeys are not yet over.  Surprisingly though, their faces are full of smiles and warmth when we see them on the streets.  They have come a long way from the reality of 4 years of civil war, or many more, of political oppression.  We are struck by the simple fact that these people do not simply fit within the confines of the title “refugee”.  They are mothers, fathers, doctors, business men, engineers, children, families.  They are just like you and me, and yet not.  They have endured horrors I would not wish upon anyone, and yet they smile, running towards a better future.

When we undertook this journey, one of our goals was to expose our girls to life outside of Canada; to give them an appreciation for their lives and the struggles faced by many others in the world.  It’s for this reason that I am both sad and happy when I hear Iris explain the tragedy of refugees to her grandparents.  Her simple words and struggle to ensure that she is understood when she says “the families had to leave because there was a war and the moms and dads wanted to protect their children” tells me that she gets it at the only level necessary.

Our girls have stopped asking us why there are partially (or fully) sunken boats in the harbour, and why the beaches are littered with life jackets and water bottles full of urine.   The sights have become accepted and commonplace, but not acceptable and we have daily conversations about how the world is helping the refugees and what can be done for them.

Discarded Lifejackets

Discarded Lifejackets

They understand now (as best they can) the plight of the refugees and have asked us many times what Canada is doing to help.  I wish I could give a good answer, but I can’t for many reasons.  I can’t explain because I don’t fully understand why it has taken months to put together a “refugee plan”.  It seems pretty simple to me and involves one step – offer them a new home.  I can’t explain because I’m saddened, disappointed and embarrassed when I hear Canadians referring to refugees as “Muslim extremist” or “terrorists”, and suggesting that there is some kind of heightened security risk in letting them settle in Canada.  I can’t explain because I know that the only real solution is to provide security and peace for people in their homes and that saying this is so much easier than accomplishing it.

In the end, I tuck my girls in at night and give to them as much love as I can, knowing that they (like me) have won the lottery, and as Canadians they stand an excellent chance of never being exposed firsthand to the carnage and ruin that those we see here have.  We are rich in many, many ways, none of which involve money.


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  1. Norm Cooper says:


    I really enjoyed your article. Thanks for sharing your observations and thoughts. Cruising is such a great education for both adults and kids.


  2. Donna Sassaman Donna Sassaman says:

    Thank you for your humanity and compassion. Your article brought tears to my eyes. I, too, know that I won the lottery by living where I live.

  3. Jane Poulston says:

    Great article Darryl. We live on board a Fontaine Pajot 46 bought in Trinidad and crossed the Atlantic where we cruised the Med for five years. Currently we are back in the Caribbean and are crossing the Pacific this year. We have been on board nine years and are still loving the lifestyle. Enjoy Turkey, spent 3 winters there and part of our hearts will forever be there. We got to know Marmaris quite well and would highly recommend doing the EMYR rally. As you say we are blessed – Carpe Diem Jane s/v Ta-b

  4. Ken & Lima says:

    am located in Marmaris Turkey at Marmaris Yacht marina .
    this is on the S side of the well protected marmaris harbour.
    vessel name is SURGIAMO . will arrive in early April & on the hard till mid April.
    if you need questions answered , I may have them. also a few contacts there.
    Serefe means Cheers
    Ken Wright
    cel # is 0536 611 2784

  5. Bill Eisenhauer says:

    Hi Janet and Darryl, really enjoyed your article and we have similar concerns as we head into this summer season. We have our boat in Finike and will return in mid-June for 6 weeks or so to explore and cruise up to Marmaris. We made the same crossing as you last season. We have young teenagers and spent 14 months a couple years back cruising Sardinia – Ionian Greece. Perhaps we see you in a bay this summer. I am BCA member in directory.
    S/Y Hippodackl IV